It's funny really (not) a mate at work used to tell me about his kids escapades ( a decent bloke , decent family. Blah blah) and when Mrs wombat was preggo with 1st he'd say " I give you a couple of years, you'll be a broken man" and he's right ,i have the haunted look, I used to be super laid back now I'm like a coiled spring ready to boing off like a chiffon mentalist
It's safe to come back. They're asleep. Everyone is right. Kids drive us mad, but we love them whatever. Think of yday... Not many 6 year olds could cycle 15 miles around Rutland Water. Today was more challenging cos they ere confined in a broken down van... It will get better x
^this. Cannibalism does have its place in child-rearing. On a more positive note: studies have shown that a Border Collie has the same intelligence as a human three year old. And they can catch frisbees in their mouth and play flyball. Can you see where I'm going with this...
We all melt down from time to time. I can recall some moments im not proud of! I hope it doesnt come across as sexist and we do try but blokes do struggle. Weve only recently been rewired to be child friendly you cant blame us!
This ^^^^^ Ask @WoodyLubber @TomEv86 and @Tiny-Pie's our Paul. we had to go to the pub after a ride around Rutland - we are slightly older than 6 (Tom only just though )
I feel for ya, super frustrating if you're out at a campsite too, I've had to close the door on the van and practically sit on one of mine when he kicked up over in France after a couple of hours when he knew I wouldn't give in he came around (to being good not from unconciousness you understand).
I've got a 6 year old and an 8 year old, they are good as gold most of the time, I'm very laid back and patient most of the time which helps, Mrs isn't so and has much more aggro with the children, not everything has to be a win lose argument/ battle, when I'm looking after them we have very little drama, soon as Mrs Strict comes in everything is an argument. Shock horror the children become more angry and argumentative. Monkey see monkey do twice as bad. Monkey see nice smiley good, monkey be nice smiley good, i was a stay at home dad when you were just a twinkle, chillax my little sausage all will follow :x
The best bit of advice when i had my first girl (i have a 3 and 6 year old) was to be strict with them from the second they can react. To be honest, i didn't realise how strict a dad i naturally am, i'm not strict with having a joke around, just manners and obedience i think. It has paid off dividends though now. It's a difficult one to deal with in your situation mate. I think the best thing to do is have a plan and have confidence in it. If you are going to discipline a child, they need to feel an effect of non compliance. Basically, they need a punishment. The easiest way to make them feel the burn, is when one of them is better than the other for you. You then reward the better one, and the other feels left out. Then its a case of asking them if they feel good about not getting a reward, or whether it feels bad. We use a behavioural chart for this. 3 strikes a day, and then you don't go up the chart. If they are significantly bad, they go down the chart one place. At intervals of 5 and 10 etc there are prizes (from the pound shop) and they love it, but are equally annoyed when they don't get one. Works for us. Try to keep your kids humble, don't let them have every bit of tech and toy at their fingertips, and think back to when you were a kid and what made you tick. Then you can bring the child back out of them. Like conker picking for instance, that was amazing for me when i was a kid and it works for mine now. Get out of the house more maybe. Always try to end the day with some love and a good cuddle. Regardless of the events, always say goodnight at the very least. If you can't do it at bed time, you can sneak back in when you feel bad about it and give them a kiss when they sleep. ( i often have to do this lol). Make sure you and the mrs are a proper team, who back each other up. This is key. I don't think your situation is as simple as that, but that's all i can say from my experience. Being tired wont help, but knowing you are tired and understanding it's effect on your attitude will help. Chin up, think of a plan, be confident, act on your threats, but make up at bed time and talk about the issues with them.
Having none of my own the only thing I regret about having no kids is the potential difficulty in future organ donors, threads like this and other episodes I've seen/heard of make me pleased I'll die lonely with an empty church. Dogs 100%. Get a pig, they will eat children and bone.
We preferred to leave the disciplining of ours to the nanny. That way we could say that we never hit our child.
I take my hat off to you , I escape to work every day and still find the evenings challenging. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I used to wear mine out taking them on long walks ,I would park 10 miles from the beach.. I had a pretty good time with mine ,but you need to train them early... When they finaly go to uni etc ,that is when you really love them...
