Exactly this! I hate, hate, hate myself for the way I was with my dad, you know, gobby as I thought I knew better, the "what do you know" attitude. Got slightly better when I got involved with cars. We made up in the last 3yrs of this life because Cancer told me too. He died in front of me in an old, moody hospital in London. He was a good man, did everything to keep us wanting nothing. Even in death he is still looking after us. God, I miss him. My depression started when he passed in 2003, I changed, too much, even I don't recognise myself. Sorry dad. Truly I am. I type this with a tear in my eye.
i woke one day and turned into to my dad , jesus many tv s do ye need on at one time , get of the phone turn of the lights , cost how much am not eating that lol ,
Extremely moving and sorry. Sometimes we have the need to express our feeling I think we all have mixed feeling about our Dads , it's life
Sorry to hear that Barry. My daughter lives only 60 miles away from me in West Sussex. But she decided many years ago after she married, to cut herself off from her family. She came to visit me 3 years ago and I hardly recognised her. The strange thing is she always sends me cards with nice words, so what is that all about? Doesnt talk to me though, no texts, no emails, nothing. After I divorced, my son kept away and it took a few years before he made contact, we still see each other but not that often. My son divorced about 3 years ago and since then I dont see my grandchildren hardly at all. In my old age I look around at all this family politics and wonder what on earth is it all about. So I get on with my life and leave them all to it.
I had the best dad in the world until I was thirteen. Then he topped himself and became the worst dad ever.
he will be prowd of you in knowing that your like he wanted you to be now and we all need to grow up sometime , listening to our elders might give some more experience of knowing war doesnt prove anything too huh . Take care salad and hope you get your mum sorted too .
be strong bud ,your a dad now and a good one too to all yr kids , sometimes its good to let stuff out as we both know , but its hard too huh , take care, we care too
Reading your replay gave me great comfort, it's nice to read that someone is in the same boat and understands, how can people we brought into the world be so wicked and cold towards us, I too just concentrate on people who love me and want me in their lives Bazza
Wow! This thread really makes me see things from a different perspective. I hope up on hope my kids never do these things to me and Lou. We have lived our lives for them and the hurt would be too much. I feel for you guys more than I thought I could!
Unfortunately sometimes when a couple seperate, children are used as a weapon to hurt,a person who was once loving towards you becomes a monster, this happened to me, my ex tried to stop me having any contact with my children,she told terrible lies about me and I was unable to put my side of the story, now the damage is done and my daughters are all for their mother,my eldest saw me in my car and crossed the road to avoid me,I sat in my car and broke my heart
@Barry Haynes said: ↑ Unfortunately sometimes when a couple seperate, children are used as a weapon to hurt,a person who was once loving towards you becomes a monster, this happened to me, my ex tried to stop me having any contact with my children,she told terrible lies about me and I was unable to put my side of the story, now the damage is done and my daughters are all for their mother,my eldest saw me in my car and crossed the road to avoid me,I sat in my car and broke my heart. I am trying desperately hard to stop my daughters going the same way. It's so hard not to resort to the same slanging/lying tactics as the other party but (and I hope I'm right) I have thus far (5 years) resisted the temptation to do so and as a result my girls are slowly drawing their own conclusions. I hope I've done the right thing. I know I've done the right thing, I HOPE it works out right in the end. EDIT: I couldn't have done this without the help of Mrs TBR.
