Yer dad!

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Poptop2, Nov 25, 2015.

  1. Which one are you?
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  2. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    I wouldn't fancy having a group hug with them
     
  3. I've done worse. :rolleyes:
     
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  4. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    You've been to Southend on a beano then
     
  5. 'Twas in Tots I believe!
     
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  6. Or Kings on Canvey.
     
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  7. davidoft

    davidoft Sponsor

  8. Not my dad but my mum , i just spoke to her for two hours on the phone , we live a fair distance but i still talk twice a week sometimes more and see her alot too. She talks of softeez n stress , she talks of our boys dying for this lot n says she often sobs about it , why did they die for this . Shes had alot of major ops and nearly died when she was eleven ,if it hadnt been for her mums rich lady boss she wouldnt have got the treatment she needed. She lives for today , she goes out on the bus with my aunty on adventures , she meets up with friends old and new shes made from all over the country in majorca for a holiday get together , she meets her old friends every week n they go on tinsel n turkey , she said you lot dont do that do you . I wonder what we will do when errrm if i make her age , will our gran kids come and see us or take us out who knows ?? I love her she still tells me stuff n she will always listen too . She played it to the rules her wedding vows that is but then she was bought up by a lovely victorian lady (her mum and a true victorian man my great grandad , whom im lucky enuff to have met both . He made me laugh ,he was funny . My great gran just wanted to please everyone just like my nan and my mum .

    If it wasnt for them i wouldnt be here .
    So dont blame me its their fault :D
     
  9. CollyP

    CollyP Moderator

    I have been an orphan for about 6 years. The old man was first :-(

    I loved them both. The old girl was with him when he died; I was down-stairs - the family home.

    I have told stories of him on here - the computers vs tools (I came off worst); his views on motivational speakers (every one of them came off worst), but he made me the man I am (the old girl helped :) )

    I loved him until the day he died. The greatest compliment I can give is that even as a confident and successful? man my own right, in certain situations i still think "what would the old man do?", or "what would he think of that / them?"

    I am also a little teary writing this - big girl's blouse.
     
  10. Poptop2

    Poptop2 Administrator

    I was bought up mainly by my grandparents. My Grandad ( Who until then was like my dad ) died when I was 10 and it was a delayed effect that flicked my switch.

    I have typed that about 8 times now. I edited it down to that.
     
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  11. Poptop2

    Poptop2 Administrator

    My mum's parents were gentle folk. Refined and from a good background. These were the people that brought me up. My dad's dad was a hard drinking shell shocked man who was dying slowly for a long time.

    Two different world's entirely.
     
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  12. You've had a complicated upbringing, Malc ;). Not unknown for kids to be brought up by grandparents (or other relations), though.
     
  13. rickyrooo1

    rickyrooo1 Hanging round like a bad smell

    don't regret, you nay have at 1st been right, mrs roo may be right, he may peg out one day and i'll regret not knowing things from another viewpoint, but the guy is a stranger to me, i've worked with people longer than i knew my father...... i've probably spoken to you more times than him, i've certainly had more fun.... regrets? i've had a few, but then again..... as sid once said.
     
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  14. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    I had some great nights in Kings on Canvey, we all used to drive there in our Cortinas and Capris. Do you remember the DJ in Tots, didn't he used to sit inside a cage or am I thinking of another club. You've brought back some great memories for me
     
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  15. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    You say you might have regrets after your dad dies, if you try to heal things and it doesn't work out, you tried and at least you won't spend the rest of your life with regrets, worth thinking about
     
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  16. THIS^^^^^
    I made my peace with the old man on his death bed, he looked like a tramp, yellow with jaundice, bloodshot eyes, unkempt beard and arms/legs like bits of string with knots in them, a sorry, sorry state.
    His last act and words to me were to get his wallet from his bedside cabinet as he was too weak to do so, I was honestly expecting/hoping to get a long lost childhood photo or some memento from years gone by, instead he took out a tenner and asked me to get him a cheap bottle of Scotch, i took the money but he didn't last long enough to get the Scotch. :(
    I'd made my peace, done what I needed to, didn't change my opinion but I'm glad I did it anyway. I was, right until the last, hoping for some sort of epiphany, a final change, a final chance, it never happened but I gave it every opportunity.
     
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  17. rickyrooo1

    rickyrooo1 Hanging round like a bad smell

    don't know where he lives, don't have any contact detail.
     
  18. i called me ma by her name and me granny me ma , only now do i call me ma me ma , but yet me da da ?
     
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  19. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    Not even a cousin or distant aunt ? you might be surprised,people change I know I have, as I said and Mrs Roo has said, you might regret it one day, if he tells you to F off then you F off and he's a, well I don't have to say it do I?
     
  20. Poptop2

    Poptop2 Administrator

    Best probably to at least try to see him. Somehow my gut feeling is you won't bother after the first time. I think there is too much water under the bridge.
     

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