We are obviously very proud and protective of our Lucy.... She seems to be making the right choices so far and has been sorting out the riff from the raff. She will hopefully let us know if anything is untoward. So far they all can play liar dice and loose at scrabble...
I think if the mum or dad of a girlfriend had said this kind of thing to me on a first date I might think "Yeah, wha'eva pops".
My stepdaughter brought a boyfriend home to meet us and while sat in the garden I quietly lent over and said if you hurt her (she had been in the past) I'll cut you're b****off and feed them to the dog's. ...As a lot have mentioned guns, the day after they got married we went clay shooting. He said I didn't know you were a good shot, I winked at him and said I don't miss. .......his face was a picture and I got a bollocking later of my stepdaughter for scaring him.....
In my experience, men that get all protective about their daughters are the sort of men who didn't treat girls very well when they were young and think that all men will treat their little princesses the same. Just saying
No, my mother taught me to treat women with respect and not like Marmite!!! That's what I expect from anybody dating my daughter!
I had a few issues with some of my eldest daughters boyfriend choices. There was one who was constantly in trouble with the Police. A couple of years ago I had reached the end of my tether so without going into detail I had a chat with him and later that day he told my Sophie it was over. And as if by magic he ended up in prison.
My father in law couldn't wait for me to ask Sally out, they lived across the road and he was sick of listening to me trying to get my Honda250 Dream started every morning at 7.30, he just wanted to sort it out for me. First time I met him properly he was cooking the ring gear off a flywheel in the oven to shrink fit it, this was a Sunday morning and mum in law was waiting patiently to cook Sunday roast That was 36 years ago, we're still together
Difficult one isn't it. Most of our sons and daughters will be hurt by their partners in the sense they'll get their hearts broken, hopefully as part of the process of finding that right person. We either broke hearts or had ours broken when we were growing up. When my daughter starts dating, which won't be for another 8-10 years, I don't know how I'll react to whoever she brings home. I will try not to go into Sonny Corleone mode (pedants, I know that was brother/sister not father daughter ) prematurely.
The thing is, it's different nowadays.... It helps that I'm a big bloke, and most people round here know me, but you have to lay the ground rules a bit, no? Anyway, I only have one daughter, so I don't care if I get it wrong, as long as she is safe.
Well unfortunately my wife doesn't talk to her father but her mother warned me not to hurt her little girl otherwise I'd have to answer to her.....fearsome woman but made a lovely cuppa
The teenage years are difficult for kids and their parents. Up to the teenage years parents tell kids what they can or can't do and impose rules and control. Then the kids grow up and assert themselves and want to do what their friends do. They have school pressures and big emotional and body changes at the same time. Parents have to change and start to treat their kids as young adults and that's hard to do and accept. The skill with teenagers is to give them enough slack and teach them about issues like sex, drugs, alcohol and boyfriends so they can make their own decisions. Its not easy, I have been there a while ago now, but same issues apply today. Bear in mind that kids will leave home at some point, maybe go to university and parents then have no supervision at all. The kids are free to make their own decisions and mistakes. Maybe parents would have to pick up the pieces. Hopefully parents can keep a good relationship going with the kids and still be in touch and needed in the future. As adults, kids are free to choose, sadly my daughter has estranged herself but I still have contact with my son. I have had a lot of accepting to do.
I was going to ask why is it that some daughters don't want to speak to their old Dad, its a mystery to me, you bring them up, put them through uni and help in every way including financial and one day they cut you off without any explanation. My son's new partner doesn't speak to her Dad, I am too polite to ask her about it.
