Although i work full time and Donnups part time we pretty much share the responibilities. Granted she is home more than me but our lives are like revolving doors during the week. Mon, Tues, Weds i come home and Donnups leaves for work. In the mornings i'm up with the boys making them breakfast, getting them ready for the day, dressing them etc, taking my oldest to nusery etc. Then when i come home and Donnups leaves for work i get them their dinners, bath them, get them ready for bed and put them to bed. Donnups does the bit inbetween. Donnups works on a Sat morning so i use this time to do some housework which is never ending in our house. Donnups would have already done it in the week but come the weekend it needs doing again. Our washing machine is constantly on the go but the main bulk gets done on the weekend by the pair of us. For us it works even though it can become rather chaotic and it is a pain that we dont see each other as much as we would like but hey its family life.
Ah the washing machine ...... I used to put the washing on timer to finish when Katie gets in from work - but she did not appreciate that at all so now I tend to load up before work - then time it so it finishes as I walk through the door. Then hang it up etc. That first hour I get in from work is my house work time - I am happy to pretend that its a continuation of 'work' before I relax for the evening .... If I had the money I would get a cleaner / Swedish maid
We both do our fair share but still have a cleaner and use childcare. If I was at home all day I couldn't see what the problem is as its all about setting a routine isn't it
General housework is easy, done in what a hr or so. When you have kids it is an ongoing thing that never ends. Yes you can set a routine but kids being kids don't always keep to that routine.
I have just finished a year of house husbanding. When we moved to Somerset, I agreed to do this largely down to child care issues and to let the youngster settle into her new school and to let Mrs LMPD concentrate on her new job, without having to worry about the mundane things in life like cooking and cleaning - being a high pressure role she's taken on. I really do have to say, it has been blooming fantastic and I have thoroughly enjoyed it. The lack of human contact can get you down from time to time - but not enough to encourage a lifestyle change. I always said that if daytime telly becomes involved in my day - then it's time to get a job. It never did, my year was up before Jeremy Kyle entered my life. If finances allow it, I would heartily recommend it - even if just for a year!!!
Dont get me wrong i love doing it but like you said the lack of human contact can get you down, but Ive met a few nice mums now at different baby places though and see them sometimes. The very few dads ive met though arent so sociable.....suits me i'll hang with the yummy mummys!
lego finding, all the skills of every grown adult - seriously have you done the above it is the most unrewarding tedious repetitive task i know - although i do like emptying the dyson as bit of lego fall out by themselves. bek - really i don't need jeremy kyle :0)
I was lucky enough to have lots of adult company all the areas I lived in was high unemployment ,so had loads of friends.. I must admit going to parent and toddler groups was quite arkward.... Happy times but you have to appreciate them ,horses for courses ,some people i can see struggle...
I was a house husband when my children were young I gave up work 13 years ago to look after our 1st child after he was born then stayed home for about 8 years in total looking after both children until the 2nd started school. I have to say it's the best job I've ever done, pay was crap though. It's what you make of it, I made it fun and didn't think much about it. Back then there went many dads looking after their children and you just got used to being sidelined by the ladies at playgroups and the comments. Used to get me own back when you hard ladies moaning how hard it is stayig at home looking after children. I just used to say it's a piece of *******. Their looks of disgust and comments what would you know. Then I would follow up by saying well actually I'm a stay at home dad lookig after my boys, so know more than some. Now I'm back to work boo hoo, I've been working in primary schools for the last 6ish years now.
Oh and I do all of the cooking. That way I know it's safe too eat and we won't be doing a family outing to A&E for a stomach pump.
I wouldn't dare moan about being at home 1. i love it 2. i love it and 3 i love it. but just as other stereotypes can be a jarring when you get labelled it isn't just hoovering and watching tv. bek
Just googled Husbandry: Hus-band-ry: The cultivation of crops and animals. Doesn't mention hoovering or watching telly. Think I'll leave it to the farmers!
