Ex's, do you ever think of yours?

and not in the "i wish they were dead" way... :

Is it wrong that i sometimes find myself thinking of my ex girlfriend? Not in a stalkery type of way, but just wondering how she's getting on?
I mentioned it in conversation to one of my old school mates a while ago and he said its just wrong and the past should be the past and forgotten about etc.

I've been happily married for over 12 years now but over the past few years since i've started having panic attacks and a bit of depression i sometimes find myself thinking of my ex as she was going through the same thing while i was going out with her as i am now.

I've not spoken to her for the best part of 15 years but still she plays on my mind every so often as i know she'd attempted suicide a couple of times and after we broke up had admitted herself into hospital.

Anyone else wonder what ever happened to their ex?

 

Mine got in touch via Facebook. She is now married with three kids! We went out for a couple of years (age 15-16) and it was a long distance thing. When the friend request came through my wife said go for it so she could be nosey! I left the ex and married my wife.

 

I only ever think of one. As you say, past should be past, but there's nothing wrong with an ex popping into your mind now and then. For me I guess it's nothing more than a case of wanting something you could never have - and if you got it you wouldn't want it anymore anyway. The one I think of is the only woman to have ever dumped me! Worse still, for a total loser. And then she went on to have relationships and kids with other losers. I'm still in touch with her (usually only by text) even though we broke up in 1996 after a 5 year relationship. I guess it's all about memories and that's where it should be left. Her life remains in the dumps. Mine's gone in one direction. Upwards. Everyone's responsible for the choices they make in life. You're not responsible for putting their mistakes right, nor trying to force them to see things from your point of view. Believe me, I know that from experience.

 

If you were once in love then she will always be a part of you.
You shared intimate moments with your ex that you will never forget, and if you're not forgetting them you're remembering them.
Even if it was just a shared joke, a good cry, or a long talk about what you think makes the world go round, these moments will always be with you like little scars or the lines in your palms.
The time you shared is part of what makes you who you are.
You will never stop thinking of each other in one way or another. It's not a bad thing.
At least not until you find yourself looking for her phone number after about 12 beers. Then there may be a problem.

 

I have no choice in the matter, I take my pirates to see her whenever she can be arsed to see them, memories come flooding back time after time, now and again if she gets me alone, she trys to bring up the past and piles me with blame ...for her having an affair with a balding Northern bloke and leaving me to bring up the pirates on my lonesome.
It still erks me, as all I wanted was what most peeps want, settle down, produce children out of love for each other and get old together, while teaching your offspring to be decent, intelligent, unbiased human beings, that can benefit the society we live in.

We were teenage lovers for a wee while, good friends until we fell for one another again, had sprogs, then when the second one was 18 months old we split...then lots of grief with social services and blame. I bought the pirates up alone for 4 years until Lou came on the scene, I still have a real trust issue with women and probably will never get over it, but I love my pirates and wouldn't be without them, I do feel guilty from time to time, for wanting my ex to just lose herself and never see the pirates..but I promised when we split that I would never stop her seeing them...even though 99% of the time it's me initiating the meet.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest, I think that's the first time I put it all together........ so yes I do think of her....I pity her.

 

I offen think of my Ex, still miss him too looooooooooooooool.

Thats why at the moment i am not in a relastionship, wouldnt be far would it to the other person, if your still not over your ex,

 

I sometimes wonder what they look like naked these days, but I never want to see any of them again. When their gone their gone!

 

I still see a couple of mine as we've managed to stay good friends afterwards. I've only managed to write one out of my life but that's because their behaviour went strange! And then there was all the other stuff on top of that. And they didn't like camping and moaned about becoming a VW widow in the summer

 

With this sort of thing it is often the case that the rose tinted spec's come out. Whether it be ex girlfriends, renovating your bus or school days - the distant memory is usually distorted and the worst bits omitted. It's funny the effect the brain has on these things.

However, certain things are in the past for a reason. If things were that great then neither of you would have wanted to change things.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about an ex, it is human nature. Just the same as you probably wonder what the new owners of your previous home have done with all the hard work you put in to decorate, or I am sure you are curious as to what happened to your 1st car? It is especially more so with partners, as your will have shared and exchanged all sorts between you - experiences, secrets, tears, emotional highs and lows, and even bodily fluids! As was mentioned by Baywatcher though, thinking about them is fine, trying to get hold of them may not be if you are somewhat 'emotional'.! :-[

Still, sometimes seeing an ex can pay dividends. Especially if you find out they are now a serial adulterer or developed into a greasy haired, cake eating, 42 stone toothless monster or, heaven forbid, it turned out that your beautiful soul mate did not like camping, historic vehicles and VW shows!!!!!!

Que sera sera........

 

My ex was my first girlfriend at school. Only lasted a week when i was 12 and on a school trip to Germany, a holiday romance if you like.

Never really saw her again until after 6th form even though we were at the same school. Started a job with the county council and one of the first people i saw was her and it was like we'd never been apart. We went out for another couple of years until i went away to Uni and met my lovely wife.

 

I think about mine all the time, sometimes I do find it hard to sleep on a night tossing and turning thinking what went wrong? was it me to blame? ,I drink a lot to try to forget, but in the morning I feel twice as bad ,it`s been 5 years you would have thought I would have got over it...tears are actually appearing now... :'(

I keep saying the pickup has been more practical than my old westy, but it does not help to pain... :'(

 

my x wife is on here last legs , so i ve ordered 3 very large tubs of worms for when the last sod goes on , owen nw

 

Its true Zed ...you always remember the REAL dirty ones ;D ;D