Dropping out and living the dream

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by tommygoldy, Jun 20, 2015.

  1. I will if you will ;)

    Actually this was kind of why I bought the bus - it came out of that sort of idea. Plan was to be touring Spain for at least a couple of months over the summer. Ironically enough the thing that got in the way of making the Spain trip happen was the impulse to move to the south coast. In the end we got so stressed out trying to make that move happen that we pretty much gave up. I guess the reality of that idea hit me - it's a lot of upheaval for a new life that's ultimately not radically different... So anyway, the only adventure that's likely to happen imminently is a 3 week tour of the South West. Still, it will be enough to work out whether the bus works for us for any more than a weekend - if it does maybe an extended French road trip would be a good idea.

    :) If I'm honest it's less about her willingness and more about my resolve to convince her. I'm impulsive, and I change my mind all the time. I'm good at ideas, good at getting other people on board, then I typically get bored and move on to the next idea...(e.g. south coast move). If I'm going to make something happen I need to decide what it is and stick to it. Of course, the missus can throw a spanner in the works at any point - and very probably make me think that calling the whole thing off was my idea. They do have ways. ;)
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  2. I would, but seein as my missus is the main earner, I kinda gotta do what I'm told :D
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  3. Not if you both quit your jobs. ;)
  4. I semi-quit my job nearly a year ago, still hanging in there though!
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  5. Yup.
  6. On the program last night the guy said "we slipped the net" they both had good jobs and now live in poverty ,BUT STILL HAPPY.....:D

    In the early days we had votes to stay or go back ,I was the only constant, I want to be here ,the kids were finding the school hard and the misses was missing the convenience of supermarkets on your doorstep ,so I was three against one for quite a long time..

    The house started getting done (we moved out of one room) and the kids had pets etc to keep them occupied ,it was a long road but the votes started to side with me...;)

    hardest thing for me was selling my Morris Marina collection ,they were both wrecks, but I loved them..:mad:
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  7. Tuesday wildchild

    Tuesday wildchild I'm a circle!

    RE health.

    We have my wife's twin brothers here I escorted one to the hospital in the early morning hours a couple of days ago with a dicky ticker, he is still there. In the excellent NHS it would of /does shock him then after a couple of hours kick him out the bed as the figures look better.
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  8. Baysearcher

    Baysearcher [secret moderator]

    If I lived in a place like yours is be voting for "stay" too!
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  9. where is he?
  10. Tuesday wildchild

    Tuesday wildchild I'm a circle!

    Saint Jean. Still keeping him in, his heart is getting back to normal rhythm but it tales time.

    French doctors weren't happy with the choice of UK drugs has been taking.
  11. A brief update for anyone who's interested.

    I think it's safe to say that a move to France is something that we all like the idea of (kids and missus included). Poitou-Charentes appeals. My wife (actually, we're not married, but with two kids we might as well be) has spoken to her sister about the idea (she married a Frenchman and lives in Lyon) so it's fair to say we're both giving it some serious thought.

    As for the specifics, it's not going to happen immediately, so I'm holding off from making too much of a plan. Our circumstances might be different in a years time so no point getting too set on anything. The seed has been sown so the next step is to move towards being able to make it happen. One good thing is that neither of us have jobs that we'd be sad to leave behind - I'm on casual terms at work, and my wife is freelancing so from that point of view we could both up and leave any time.

    My first move is to start selling off some of my superfluous possessions. On Saturday we sorted out a huge pile of stuff for the car boot and I've decided to take a day off work every week putting stuff on eBay. I think that move or not this is a positive thing. I have too much stuff, and could always do with more money. I barely scratched the surface on Monday and still managed to list £1500 worth of stuff for sale. I'm trying to be ruthless - policy is if I'm not using it it's got to go, planning to throw away old photos, and I'm even considering selling my entire record collection :eek:. It feels good to let go of some stuff. The only exception to the rule is for the time being I'm keeping all my tools. But if I do make it across the channel I'd like to travel light.
  12. Haven't you dropped out yet ? :D
  13. sANDYbAY

    sANDYbAY On benefits-won't sponsor!

    You could either scan them or set up a copying table and photograph them, then you don't lose all your old photos but they're stored on a tiny memory stick.
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  14. Not a bad idea... but it would take forever, and actually it might be good to let go of the emotional baggage. I'll probably go through them and keep a few favourites. The rest I'll store in my own tiny memory. :D
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  15. Don't chuck nuffink out. In 30 yrs nobody gonna know what a photo or record is, you'll be able to sell them for a huge markup on ebaymars to fund dropping out from living on Mars and living the dream on Saturn.
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  16. I bought a 450 pound transit lwb and it took two trips ,the second trip some people were moving back so paid me to drop them off....

    Gradually the misses (actually, we're not married :D) managed to fill the new house with just as much junk...:rolleyes:
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  17. The only sure way to drop out is to do it in your own head.
    Then it won't matter a flying frank whereabouts your body actually is.
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  18. This is exactly right
    As tommy has started to rid his family of unneeded tat
    I do think hes on the right path

    Never sell your tools though they often allow you to make money when you need it the most
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  19. I feel like I have just changed to a better goldfish bowl...:D

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  20. I've been reading this thread with great interest, and my point of view for what it's worth is go for it fella.
    I have no experience to qualify that suggestion except that I, like many others in this country are going through the motions of doing a job they don't particarly like to pay their mortgage. Yes I could retrain but at my time of life being the only earner in my household that would be nigh on impossible.
    Follow your dream, you've done plenty of research, know most of the pros and cons and seem to be in a good position once you sell up. Worse case scenario is it doesn't pan out and you come back to the UK and live in your rental... But at least you would have tried it.

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