both of your house, that's a laugh... the law is biased to women.... they can shag around and leave you but still get your stuff and leave you broke..... the law is an ass!
My rights are she gets everything. The law sucks. Trying to convince her as she is working she can rent a new place, as I'm not working I have no chance. Even if I get a job tomorrow the estate agents will be very reluctant to rent to me.
Go with the advice of a solicitor if you can. Do citizens advice have any resources that can help initially ? If you do not have a job at the moment, then some free advice would be useful. Most of all, try and keep calm no matter what happens. If you blow, you will lose any high ground you have today. Wish I had the magic answer but I guess you will just have go through this. Sorry mate but the only advice if feel I can offer, is get some legal advice.
Just picked up on this thread, am so sorry to read about what you're going through. I'd play on the heart strings a bit if you can, you didn't choose to be in this position, this is of HER doing so she needs to have some flexibility in the housing situation to enable you to get back on your feet.
the problem is when splitting (even though in this case it's her) she starts reasonable (guilt) then gets poisioned by family..... mommy and daddy will have been bending her ear.... all of a sudden your biggest confidant is your biggest enemy.... and she knows where you hid your weapons..... i am cynical for a reason.... the law stinks, if you get cheated on and it's cut and dry why the hell should you suffer more?
All very true. Really she needs to move out as she is working. The house is rented and I can get it covered until I'm on my feet
It's been said before, the law is an ass... Hypothetically, if you and your partner decide to live together and from day one you divide all the bills 50 /50, so that everything is equal... After just three months it is classed as a common law partnership and the female is entitled to 50% of your belongings... Therefore she is has already got half of the house etc, and also half of your half of everything... to technically you get 25% compared with her 75%... ..... That said, if it was me. I would shut shop and walk away.... No questions, no quarrels .... Take the high ground...
I was dumped 3 weeks before Xmas, 10yrs and engaged to marry in 2yrs. She got bored and wanted out. Not the same as cheating but being alone after living with someone for 8yrs, together for 10 is very odd. Be strong for your child and think positive dude - 2 sides to every story but that doesn't mean cheat. All the best buddy.
As someone who is nearing the end of a messy break up that's taken 18 months, the law is fairly useless to either side, it really will boil down to who makes the biggest noise/who can take the grief. Nasty wins at the start of these things, every time. Reasonableness and moral high ground will count for bugger all at the moment but the consolation is they will win out in the end. I offered my (soon to be) ex, ALL of the house, ALL of the contents, the children, the dogs, the savings, the pensions, I bought her another brand new car 6 months after I left, paid off her £5000 overdraft and gave her £1500 month, in return she took me to court for more!!!! £20,000 in solicitors bills later, she's gonna get less money, no pensions, a huge overdraft and I presume a similar figure in her solicitors bills. The ONLY people who win are the lawyers. Get the best deal you can for the kids, get out and get real. It's gonna hurt. BUT It'll get better. You saw me at Xmas, looked good eh? Happy, sorted and making new friends. You can do it too pal, I know you can.
