Technically libel not slander due to the form in which it was made, both would have to be proven untrue, but seriously, does it matter? If it's over, it's over.
Exactly. And obviously she is fitting tooth and nail to stay in the house. So preparing for the worse I was checking rent prices around here. £750 for a 2 bed flat. With all the bills on top I'm looking at £1200 per month to survive. So I need to be earning around £18k. Good luck with that one then.
if you are keeping the kid in your care youll get a housing associasion place BUT they will probably say if the mother is staying in the house they'll probably say he will have to stay there... you then are not their problem until you are homeless.
Just a suggestion you both want and care about your boy , she stayed last night?? why not stay until you both know what is happening, sleep where ever and put all of you through as little trauma as possible . You can work this out for all yours sakes . Lawyers wont help, it will get messy , dont put yourselves and most of all that boy through unnecessary grief.Take care n dont come on here and take the negatives either of you that is , take the positives lifes too short and before you know it you will be old farts like me
change the locks and do things on YOUR TERMS , at the end of the day youd didnt cheat , look after number 1 and 2 you and the boy , she wasnt thinking about u when her knickers where round her ankles , owen nw :-X
Really difficult situation you're in there. Who's name is the house in? That will count for something. I think if it's looking like you can't sort things amicably, then you really do need legal advice. Mediation might be a way of avoiding solicitors, if you're both willing to sort it that way. Also Citizens Advice - find out what your legal status is regarding the property. You may be entitled to housing benefit/council tax benefit if you're on a low income or not working, so that might help you afford the house. Also find out if you can sign on till you get a job - it's not your fault you're in this situation. There's the other side to all this as well (apologies if this sounds like namby-pamby counselling stuff), but no wonder you're feeling all over the place - you have actually been through a bereavement here, so give yourself time and space to grieve. You've lost your partner and the future you thought you'd got - that's a big loss, so in between all the practical stuff, be kind to yourself. Lecture over!
Speaking from very recent/ongoing experience DO NOT vacate the property - once you're out you're fecked. You should be entitled to a free half hour with a solicitor. They will confirm where you stand legally. Get yourself registered for Job Seekers - you do that by filling a form in online. If you've got the boy make sure you are getting the Child Tax Credit and Child Benefit paid to you - as a single parent you can request that they be paid weekly instead of monthly. Also contact your local council - you will be entitled to housing benefit and council tax benefit. Most importantly, stay strong and don't give up
it is time to think about what you are posting now Col , maybe get this thread deleted , i truly wish you both the best of luck , no one deserve's what you are going through but for both your sakes do it in words between each other ! a hug for both of you
Just reading through this, you have had some great advice - it is important you stay calm and collected, some solicitors offer a free 1hr consultation maybe it's worth it to find out your exact rights? It's hard going both me & Michelle have been through it in the past (with ex's) we both came out the other side & haven't looked back since we met. Good luck & chin up
Yes thanks for all the wonderful advice people. I have to try and keep emotions out of this and deal with it with a level head. It's a crappy situation but it will eventually be behind me. And just for legal reasons, I'd like to clarify she wasn't actually sleeping with anyone but I will not divulge details.
