Came home from work and suz lad was here, as hes been around a bit lately. seems his dad has a new woman in the nest . the lad is nearly 30, and working part time. so rather that his dad saying eh son i need you to pay more keep. they have started hiding stuff. from cereals to loo rolls. would you do this to your lad. As far as i'm concerned he could come here but he would have to pay keep. his mum would not want to charge him Keep. But maybe thats her choice. Suz knows if i aint happy with anything i would tell them both.
I dont envy any youngsters looking to buy a house in this day. with rip off banks. charging 6 times the rate of interest that the national rate . wanting big deposits . thou there suppose to be them government loans to help. but its a way to go who can afford to rent and save to buy a house.
true, i doubt i could afford to buy now if i hadn't already...... but rental is dead money, shame for the lad if his dad is letting new woman rule over his son then he's a weak man, needs to tell her it's his blood - but i expect she does sexytime.
tis tricky , dont let his fathers new luck become your not sooo!! even thou he is 30 hes prob feeling his ground id say , its only my op but they can act weird in these circumstances , good luck.
to cop it all. he's a qualified electrician. working in sainsbury's. how much could he earn. i blame the parents for the way he is. i had to get myself an apprenticeship. my parents never knew i had got the apprenticeship at Rolls Royce till they had a invite to a open days viewing. just goes to show. giving them everything is not always the best thing in life.
On obsessive cleaners last night ,two teenagers where left in charge of the house while mum lived with her boyfriend.... Of course they trashed it ,the mum was upset but still wanted to be their friend ,the mums boyfriend was super angry.... I want a good relationship with my kids, but I do not want to be their friend the two boys would have been looking for someone else` s place to trash.... I had my nephew when he was 16 [hit his stepdad]but got him working straight away ,eventually i had to push him out of the nest or he will still be here now...
My eldest son is 24, he's definitely my friend and equal and I wouldn't have it any other way. My "kids" look after me now, this parenting thing has to stop somewhere and we all muck in together.
They need to go mate by keeping them your life and theirs are on hold... With them around you will be in no rush to start a new relationship and get on with the rest of your life..
'sall right, one keeps going and coming back, but has no wish to stay here - he's off to London next. Other needs a shove though.
coming home to empty house makes you want to join stuff like this http://www.uniformdating.com/en-gb/ I really get on with my nephew probably because I had no perentle pressure ,but the grand scheme of things I did`nt want to spend the rest of my life with him...
Never have wanted kids so when Mrs TWs left home it was fantastic. They kept coming back but they can't now.
I suppose it depends. If he wants to work fulltime but just can't get the hours and he would be willing to pay more but just doesnt have the money then I would charge a small amount as a token, but he does his own washing/ ironing. If however he just cant be bothered to work more or hasnt bothered looking for fulltime then I wouldnt let him back. I am 29 and bought my own house when I was 22, we started the process when I was 21, I am near Brighton which is expensive, it can be done if people put thier minds to it.
My eldest has just returned from Australia and appears to think that because she "lives" nowhere she can live for free. (She and boyfriend spend a week or so here then the same with his parents) Don't get me wrong, when youngest daughter's boy friend was unable to work we supported him for a few months and we're very happy to do so, he "paid" his keep by helping out where he could but the eldest has pots of cash in the bank AND a job, it's a 'principle' thing to me. It does seem that the younger generations think that they are "owed" a living though, my Mum took half of everything I earnt as soon as I started work.
