what about us grandads , i knew youd forget me , i loved my dad n looked after him when he could not do so for himself no more( i can assure you he did not take pleasure in me having me around for his w.c moments bless im, nor me to be perfectly honest but i didnt think he deserved a nursing home and my mum could not face that either , i forgave him for bringing me up proper init , he taught me all i know and more , but i forgot some of it , he belonged to mensa and could read most under the table , but his life was not like that at the end . I think we would all like to be forgiven when we do something wrong that we are not proud of and sometimes we are lucky and have been . I have made mistakes but i try to put the m right , just a shame real life isnt the same as doing a drawing , you can use a rubber then n no one will know . Maybe we all need rubbers or perhaps buckets to wash our brains n start again sometimes.
i fugot eye tal licks , it makesit look posh init , i do ave trubble wiv this stone age site wivart ti ts smell cheka my dads up their saying stop jo king son just humour them
What a lovely warm story, thank you for sharing your feelings with us. I am a dad and grandad and when you reach a certain age in life you tend to look back and reflect as there are more years behind you than in front of you. I am very aware of that these days. The body wears out and the mind starts going but the spirit is still young. I have a son and daughter and they have busy lives much as I did and they of course go through the ups and downs of life as we all do. Sadly my daughter doesnt give me the time of day anymore but my son stays in touch and we have some good times working on his Golf and T25. I dont get much contact with my grandchildren since my son's divorce. We all have a life journey and its far better to spend time with family members when they are still here rather than research the family history when they have passed. Growing up I learned about my parents and relatives but a lot of the stuff in their lives they didnt talk about. When I was a teenager I used to get on my bike and go see my old grandad who lived on his own. I wanted to get to know him before he passed. Grandad lost his wife in ww2 but he was a veteran soldier with service in the boer war and ww1 so he was a survivor and he had to get on with his new life on his own. He inspired me very much. I am pleased you have a good relationship with your dad, its important for both of you. Remember one important thing, if it wasnt for your parents and the previous generations, you wouldnt be here.
Fell out with my old man and didn't speak to him for 19 years. Made the move to bridge the gap when my daughter was born, pressure from the Mrs, what with him missing out on his grandchildren. My daughter is 11 and he's not visited once since I took her to see him as a baby. We live 13 miles apart and have lived 4 miles away! You can't chose your family mate.
I still have a slight regret that I didn't go down the music route like he tried to, I would have had my own personal teacher. Unfortunately I was err, persuaded by a music teacher when I was 9 to play the Cello, which disapointed him and me, I thought they meant an Oboe! Anyway, that lasted less than a fortnight. I've since bought myself an electric guitar and more recently an amp 'cos the battery powered one is tiny! The guitar is still in it's box, I only bought it about 8 years ago. The last line of Fuzzywuzzyballs post is so true.
My dad did a similar thing, he kicked our bunk bed on the way out, but he said Father Christmas must of been tired and he left the presents in mum and dads room by mistake, both my brother and I both believed him, well he was dad
I'm on the other end, my 2 eldest daughters 34 and 32 have nothing to do with me, it started after their mother and I seperated and its gone down hill ever since, I have tried and tried but they don't want to know, God knows what my ex wife has told them about me,I haven't even seen my youngest grandson, they never send a birthday card or Christmas card to my 4 year old daughter by my second wife
If I'm honest, and you can on here, It was quite upsetting typing that out, seems worst when it's down in words, but I have my 4 year old who I love and who loves her daddy so I can't be all bad
Hmm, my 20-ish year old boys didn't want anything to do with their mother and she blamed that on me. In reality it was quite the opposite, they simply saw how unhappy I was, saw her bobbing off happy with the new replacement and made their own decisions based on that. Things are ok now but their opinion of her seems permanently dented. Families eh?
