Oh Brother!

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by SweeneyTodd, Jan 27, 2020.

  1. My brother Phil has lung cancer & isn’t expected to last the night. He had bowel cancer & was operated on but a rogue cell went in his lung. Ive just got back from taking our Mum to say her goodbye’s. He is still at home, not gone in a hospice, awful way to go! People all sat round staring at him, waiting. I couldn’t go in.... I don’t want to remember him like that! He is only 62! Far too young :(
     
  2. DubCat

    DubCat Sponsor

    That's really sad news. Stay strong for your brother, maybe go and give him a big hug. He probably needs one.
     
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  3. Sad news mate. Might be worth seeing him one last time?
     
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  4. I don’t think I can, he is no longer the man he was & I really don’t want that to be my lasting memory of him. It’s rather selfish, I know but feel it’s better having a memory of him as a fairly strong bloke, not weak with illness & a shadow of his former self. Mum said he was ‘comfortable’ earlier so that's something to hold on to.
     
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  5. Barry Haynes

    Barry Haynes I dance in leopard skin mankini’s

    Sorry to hear this mate
     
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  6. Soggz

    Soggz An inquisitive supporter

    Please... go and see him.
     
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  7. I think going to see him is about him, not you, and what he may get out of it. May sound harsh, but it’s too late for regrets when he’s jo longer there
    . :(
     
  8. scrooge95

    scrooge95 Moderator and piggy bank keeper

    That’s a really tough one (and by the time I’m writing this may be immaterial) ..... I know what you mean about how you want your lasting memory to be of your brother.... but you’ll have time to reconcile that, photos and memories of the good times, a lifetime to work through it. He may just want his brother for one last look.

    Really sorry for your sadness x
     
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  9. nicktuft

    nicktuft Supporter

    Youll feel better for seeing him. Don't miss the moment. Take care..
     
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  10. Our Phil passed away at around 4am this morning.... he is no longer suffering. It certainly brings home what’s important to you. I will carry him in my heart. Goodbye bruv rest in peace.
     
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  11. bernjb56

    bernjb56 Supporter

    Thoughts are with you. 62 is way too young.
     
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  12. scrooge95

    scrooge95 Moderator and piggy bank keeper

    Sorry for your loss, John x
     
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  13. Moons

    Moons Supporter

    RIP Phil....at least he isn't suffering anymore.

    I lost my dad to Lung cancer, I genuinely wouldn't wish it on my worse enemy.....the only comfort I had was that his death was actually a mercy as his life towards the end was terrible.

    They've made huge advances in recent years, and the survival rates are better, but it can be the roughest of the rough.

    I hope you remember him with great comfort as you and family have to walk the mourning path.....hopefully you'll both meet at your prime in the next life.
     
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  14. Merlin Cat

    Merlin Cat Moderator

    So sorry for your loss x
     
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  15. iblaze

    iblaze Supporter

    Sorry for your loss mate.
    I think you did the right thing by keeping your brother they way you want to remember him.
    My mum died of lung cancer 3 years ago and the last week of her life she was so pumped full of drugs she didn't have a clue who seen her or who was in the room with her.

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  16. So sorry for your loss mate
    My mums been diagnosed with terminal cancer it truly is an awful thing


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  17. Sorry for your loss think about the happy times you shared it does help.
     
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  18. Soggz

    Soggz An inquisitive supporter

    :(
     
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  19. Kruger

    Kruger Sponsor

    RIP to your brother, and sorry to hear of your loss.

    I lost my mum also to bowel cancer, it was a relief her suffering wasn’t prolonged, I see her 2 days before and she looked quite well, and that’s how I remember her and not as when I see her in hospital as she passed full of morphine and exhausted. :(
     
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  20. Very sorry to hear of your loss mate:hug:
     
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